Monday, September 10, 2012

I was dressed down yesterday on Facebook by a fellow artist, and liberal for my postings on political things. True I am really liberal..I found some fun,some serious and informative posts that I shared. I got excited about the conventions...yes I watched both RNC and DNC... This "friend" decided I needed to know that I was alienating my conservative friends...of whom he does not know at all, not even on facebook. warning me that people would eliminate me from their feeds.. I felt bad for a few minutes, then sad, then angry and today snarky...I certainly use my delete capabilities on my little old laptop when I find something offensive. I unfriend some people on facebook when their postings offend me...that does not mean that we are not friends anymore...if we were friends before facebook even existed! But if it is some person who was a friend of a friend of a friend..well.... This "friend" did this after I commented on a blasting post of his ...It was the cover of the New Yorker with the cartoons of Mitt Romney and Paul Ryan...He posted it, then proceeded to comment that since the conventions were over that he hoped he would quit getting political postings! I commented..hahaha, I don't think I will be able to unhook the soapbox from my back just yet. That is all I said and the vitriol and then snarky comments about me from his friends...whom I have never met and never will meet ensued. It was pretty ugly and I was kind of hurt. Especially since he posted the cover and begged for comments!!! Now just maybe he had a hard day in the studio, painting his life away, just maybe he had reached the max of what he could take..and just maybe he was a little bit right. So I did comment that I was just exercising my freedom of speech, explained why I posted what I had posted but then suggested that he use his delete button as I use mine. Just a note that he is the landlord of my studio..that I am leaving this month. He occasionally teaches art at the local community college, is a wonderful artist with a masters degree and is considerably younger than me. Does that make a difference? No...He may have a bit more education, than me...well no... more life experience? probably not...why I felt bad after reading this...I guess I do want people to like most humans do..but I certainly know the value of a true and giving friendship. So today I did post lots of feel good photos and articles with my snarky in Tweety bird, not politician. He may have already eliminated me from his feed but I have have certainly gone through and redone the status updates from the over 100 people who have friended me over the few years I have participated in Facebook. My suggestion to me...calm down about the is true I am not changing anyone's minds...not that I was trying to. Be more judicious about who sees my feed on Facebook. Do more painting than facebook! Don't be hurt if I comment and a comment comes back that I don't like..I opened the door after all!! Spend more time outdoors I just thought about why I was upset..I think I got embarrassed by it..not my postings but the fact that someone felt the need to stop me!!! Well once again..too old to give a huge you know what...but like I said before..there is a grain of truth to his comment...just not a nice way to put it to me. So I am going off to work..have a great weekend everyone. Yes my friends on the internet are wonderful, and I do care...but I yam what I yam and off I go! back again after a great weekend of work at the visitors center.... this may be my last weekend of work until next May. I am planning a quilting yardsale for Thursday and Friday to see if I can get a bit of $$ from the bins of unused material i collected while I tried to like making quilts! Today is my 2nd and youngest child's 30th birthday!!! I will never forget the day he was born..such a rough and painful day but so rewarding. Thomas is a great guy. He writes interesting and passionate reviews of movies online, he works at the local Wendy's, He pays his bills, he votes, he is a good hearted man. I love that he still lives here, even though he is really independent. He just paid off his truck and that is a terrific feat in and of itself. He has Tourette's syndrome, a very mild case and ADD and was the most interesting person trying to grow up with these obstacles. But he has and he is wonderful and compassionate. It is not easy to raise a child with some problems but it is rewarding. I have been blessed as he has. He has triumphed many times over adversity and I admire his tenacity. What an intelligent man he is. Finding Thomas was a goal when he was a toddler and we found him and are better for it. I hope you all have a great day


  1. What a very very interesting blog post. I know the feeling that comes when you feel you have offended somebody without intending to. I spent 20 years as a parish minister so I had loads of opportunity to do just that. As one with strong opinions, and sadly a mouth that opens rather easily sometimes I often say things that upset. But hey we all have the right to an opinion and we all have the right to express it. You are after all only inviting others to think of another way of seeing something. So go for it Kay I can assure you this is one "friend" who will not take umbrage.